I am a big, big fan of finding freedom in my self RIGHT NOW!
This is all I have…This moment, this day. If I cannot create freedom in myself this moment, then I do not have it and cannot experience it. It is totally up to me, my thinking, my beliefs, and my decisions. My MIND right NOW…is the only territory of my life I really want to claim.
Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business. You’re trespassing on territory that doesn’t even belong to you. Their opinions exist in your mind as a projection, a phantom bringing images of beliefs that are not even real–just imaginations. You can’t even know what they think. You can only know what you think it might be….(according to your own skewed beliefs about yourself.) But you never really know what it is, and why would you want to. If it’s judgmental or negative in anyway, why would you want that in your world? You can CHANGE more quickly from positive vibrations, rather than negative ones.
What YOU think of **yourself** RIGHT NOW is all there is. Living CONSCIOUSLY and on-purpose this moment is the only thing that can ensure a freedom and JOY in your world.
No where do I find this more deliciously practiced than in parenting.
Last week, I had 630 people register for a Moms with a Mission call, and I said something that got some attention. It was very similar to this…”In our home we do not serve percentages or public image. My home is a place for my children to have a good experience. It is a place for them to feel loved and to learn…not to look good. We do not serve our home … Our home is a vehicle for raising our children.”
When you LIVE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT, all you find is LOVE. You can easily see through the layers of ego and expectation and see the beauty and grandeur of each moment and all the people it includes.
For a long time I really wanted to be an AMAZING mother…I scan all my checklists to see if I was doing everything right? Did all the boxes get checked? Am I doing what all the other amazing moms are doing around me?
Today, I have no checklist. I am looking to live each day with love and passion and connection with my Divine Self and it just naturally exudes to my kids, because that is the stuff that makes up their home experience. They breathe it in every day. They grow up in an environment with constant positive love and peace surrounding them. This is BE-ing; not doing. 
This is a picture of my daughter and I taking a walk yesterday morning to feed the ducks. You may notice her bright colored pants. If you saw her other days, you’d notice her other flamboyant clothing combinations, as well! She dresses herself and I allow it. I love it. She is bright, colorful, and often non-matching (though she really does have quite a knack). The girl loves layers and hair bows, and scarves and leggings, and necklaces and this is just one of her palates where she gets to create.
One day she came downstairs in the most mis-matched outfit I had ever seen her construct and I suggested another skirt to calm down the chaos. She informed me of her policy (at age 5): “Mom, this is my body, so it’s my choice. I get to wear what I want on my body…and if I want to change, I will.”
I smiled and kissed her head. “Sounds great honey. What do you want for breakfast?”
Where did she get that? I cannot ever remember teaching her that concept that she gets to decide what she wears on her body. She just KNOWS agency and she knows where my boundaries end and hers begin and she won’t let them be crossed. SHE LOVES how she LOOKS! What else is there?
Amazing!
All I can think of, is that I live that way as well. Both my husband and I do and we are teaching her, through BE-ing the value of her own decisions and the boundaries of space she gets to claim on her own person!
Instead of check-lists and images, and ego, and “what will people think of me?” if you focus on MEANING in the MOMENT…you find a lifetime of love, joy and freedom.
